When that special person is a teen, maybe even your own teen, you are doing an amazing job of parenting just by taking a few concentrated moments to select the perfect gift for your special teen. How could this be so?
Consider this: You actually step into the shoes of a teen when you shop for a gift for your teen. You must necessarily send love to your teen as an initial starting point. Why? Because it is nearly impossible to shop for anyone without feeling warm and fuzzy -- or at least without latching on to an understanding of the person. You actually need to stop, reflect, and spend some time thinking like a teen. In that amazing space that sometimes separates parents from teens, getting to the point of feeling like a teen is a place where you actually need to be in order to communicate effectively with your teen. And so, gift shopping for your teen is actually an exercise in love and communication. And you get points for it in many other ways when you land on that perfect gift!
When tweens morph into teens, they sometimes go full throttle into a new and seemingly dark world that seems foreign to us. You will step into the mind-set of a teen in order to buy a gift and there you will find yourself amazed and possibly shocked. The things that teens want to be surrounded with are incredible. The things that teens want to hear and hold and play with are just amazing. These things might seem very dark at first…shoes and t-shirts covered with skulls and bleeding hearts, purses and socks with tattoos and swords, splashes of color on hats and shirts that might look (heaven forbid) like dripping blood, and music lyrics you would likely find dishearteningly dark. Nevertheless, the teen world of "toys" is a truly amazing and creative place. It is an exploration of their global, political, crime-ridden, loving and caring world and also a delightful test at stretching and testing the borders of real-life social issues. You will discover in the world of teen gift shopping that teens want to express themselves and find themselves all in the same instant. Although that seems confounding, one thing about their world is very clear…they are embarking on an adventure called life with all the passion they can muster.
Teens are amazing people! They love and hate all in the same breath and they are filled with passion and emotion. They are confused and very certain. They are fascinated with the world around them. They are active in so many unbelievable ways --even if you never see them sweeping the walk or even if you imagine they sit quietly alone in a dark room. They’re recording the world as they prepare to jump out into it. Their minds are racing. They are listening even if you think they are not. They are expressing their journey through the clothes they wear, the music streaming through their iPods, the activities in which they participate, and in the intense social structures in which they move.
Dropping into their world just for a simple shopping trip on the web will do wonders for placing you in a better position to understand their world. And welcome to it…It is a fascinating and incredibly awesome world that is filled with creativity and shockingly brilliant ideas. Almost as brilliant as the simple yet extraordinarily complex concept of shopping for a gift. It will change you and make you a better parent. Why? Because love does that.
My Urban Teen